Episode 36: Why Your Healing Tools Don’t Work Anymore

Where working on you becomes working with you

If you’ve reached the point where the tools you’ve been using for your healing and growth no longer have the same impact, this episode will help you understand why.

This is a powerful and critical point in your journey home to you.

It’s not that the tools stopped working, there’s another important reason, and yes, it has to do with you.

In this episode, I share how this moment marks an important threshold in both the nature of your tools and your approach to personal growth and spirituality.

I also explore what this stage of your journey reveals about the interaction between your human self and your soul self.

Let’s walk this path together — not to become, but to remember, reclaim, and live as the soul you have always been.

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Episode 35: The Reunion — Anchoring the Truth of Who I Am

This episode is not a return to something I left behind, it’s a reclamation of what has always been mine but is now ready to be fully embodied.

It marks the moment where the past, present, and soul converge, where I step forward not as someone reinventing or remaking herself, but as someone who has done the deep work, crossed the internal threshold, and is now prepared to lead unapologetically from her truth.

In this conversation, I share the raw experience of shedding identities, facing the projections and dismissiveness of others, and stepping out of roles, expectations, and systems that were never aligned with who I am at the deepest level.

I speak not to teach or guide, but to embody what it means to stand fully in the clarity, sovereignty, and power of my own essence — without softening or adjusting for the comfort of others.

This episode is for those who have always known they were different — the ones who were never meant to follow, fit in, or be palatable — and who are now ready to reclaim the truth and leadership they have always carried within themselves.

It’s for those who are done waiting, done shrinking, and ready to stand as the whole of who they are, leading not from strategy, but from soul.

Let’s walk this path together — not to become, but to remember, reclaim, and live as the soul you have always been.

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There is profound value in exploring the complex dynamic between you and your parents or parental figures. Whether your upbringing was filled with love and beauty, marked by pain and hurt, or a combination of both, your relationship with your parents holds essential keys to your personal growth and evolution.

While it’s true that you cannot change your parents or their past actions, you have the power to transform how you feel about them and develop your acceptance and openness with them. By exploring the experiences and traits you inherited from them, you gain a deeper understanding of who you truly are.

IN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:

• The invaluable gifts that your relationship with your parents’ and parental figures offer you for your personal growth and evolution.
• The critical role of exploring your relationship with your parents in becoming your true self.
• The significance of acknowledging and healing both the hurtful aspects and the beautiful qualities within your parents and your interactions.
• How refraining from exploring and facing the truth of your relationship can create distance, not only between yourself and your parents but also within your own being.
• The power you possess to create a closer connection with your parents, reflecting a deeper connection with yourself.

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In your friendships, are you the one who keeps them going? Do you initiate the contact, and put in the time and effort?

You may even be like I used to be where you find when you go for coffee, out to lunch or dinner or to do some other activity, that you are the person who pipes up and says "I'll pay for it".

If you are why are you the person who generally holds the responsibility, pays and organizes things?

Join me as I explore my process of how having coffee with friends, involved me paying for both mine and theirs. 

Why? Because I didn't want to owe anyone anything. I didn't know how to receive and my lack of self-worth and neediness were driving me.

THIS EPISODE 

You explore:

• How what appear to be insignificant and irrelevant occurrences, can be the key to deep-seated patterns of a lack of self-worth
• The influence of what may feel like unrelated experiences, on how you live your life now
• How the process of sabotage and rejection deny you of what you truly deserve
• How ceasing to pay for someone's coffee was an opportunity for huge growth for me.

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As an adult have you lived your life, where as a child growing up, you did what you wanted to do? Or have you lived your life or some of your life based on what others believed was right for you and what they wanted you to do?

A life that filled the dreams, hopes and missed opportunities of your parents, grandparents and other significant people from your life. 

Where expectations were either imposed on you or you imposed them on yourself.

A life where you lived other peoples unlived lives.

As a parent or grandparent have you not lived the life you wanted to, and you encouraged your children or grandchildren to do what you missed out on, believing it was the right thing to do?

If your answer is yes – this episode is for you.

THIS EPISODE 

You will:

• Understand what means to be living the unlived lives of your parents and others
• Work through how a parent can unconsciously and consciously impose their expectations of what they did not fulfil in their life, on to you
• Explore how this process conditions and impacts a person as a child and then as an adult
• Come to understand how not only your parents can impose expectations and responsibilities on you but how you can do this to yourself too
• Acknowledge the steps for you to take to work through these expectations that were imposed on you 

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I invite you to embark on my exploration of hope with me. 

How a personal meditation I won as a prize, which involved an initial conversation, prompted processing in me that took me on a journey of reflection on my life and my relationship with hope. 

In this episode, I delve into the transformative power of meditation and it’s impact on my journey toward finding inner peace and stability. How it became a beacon of hope for me until I realized that my growth, was being hindered and limited by it.

This episode explores how through my processing I uncover my journey of hope from how I had defined it as a lifeline for me to escape where I was at, to becoming something I suppressed, ultimately rejected and gave up on. To embracing it as an internal flame of belief, trust, and self-driven progress. 

My introspection led me to release old conditioning, connect more to my true self, and embrace a new perspective on hope. I discovered what hope truly means to me, its implications in my life and its transformative potential. I came to appreciate hope in a way I have not previously done so.

THIS EPISODE 

You will:

• Share in my journey of meditation which led me to connect with hope
• Explore how hope is an important process for our growth and evolvement
• Come to know how, in becoming my true self I rejected hope and made it wrong
• Hear how I gave up on hope and the impact of that on me
• Explore how I reconnected to hope in a new and different way

As humans, hope plays a crucial role in our lives, precisely because we often find ourselves lacking it within ourselves. Our journey towards hope is intertwined with our sense of self-worth and deservedness. It is when we question our own value and worthiness that hope becomes elusive. But there is hope for finding hope again. To explore strategies for cultivating hope within ourselves, I invite you to download your free copy of:

13 Ways To Recognize And Own Your Self-Worth Guide

My Deservedness Video And Workbook

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• The process of inspiration
• What inspiration is
• Why do you experience flashes of inspiration
• Why you may look to external things for inspiration
• Your true inspiration and being inspired by yourself
• Some key questions to support you to explore your inspiration

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I am so excited to introduce you to ‘Processing Reflections With Minz And Barb’ and to one of the most beautiful people I have ever met, someone so dear and precious to me – Barbara Binns.

Barb, as she is called by many people, is someone whom I have journeyed with for many years. We share the love of I Make a Difference, personal growth, and catching up to share and explore our processing together.

Barb mentioned to me at the end of last year that her daughter had said to her “you and Minz should do a podcast together”. These were the spoken words of what I had already been processing and pondering, so action was taken.

‘Processing Reflections With Minz And Barb’ will now be a regular feature of the I Make a Difference podcast. How regular? Good question. We are going to trust the process and see what unfolds. 

Barb and I are going to have our catch-ups and explore and share processing about different aspects of our personal growth, the processes we explore, and the processing we experience.

In this episode, I wanted to ensure that you got to meet and know Barb and a snapshot of how we came to connect and be friends.

If you are wondering who Minz is – that is me (Melinda) it is a nickname I have been called for many decades and it also stands for Made In New Zealand.

You might want to check out the new I Make a Difference Youtube Channel and the video version of this episode which is in the playlist Processing Reflections With Minz And Barb

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For decades one of the most powerful patterns of conditioned approaches I have had with my mum is the responsibility I took on board for her emotional and physical well-being.

My need to be over responsible has governed my interactions, my decision-making, and my relationship with my mum since a very young age. The result is, I have been serious in my relationship with her, the problem solver and protector.

It was late last year when an experience I had gave me the insight I needed to take action in this area. I wanted to give focus to really working on letting go of my over-responsible ways. My commitment was to taking new and different approaches. The key to making this happen was for me to stay open to recognizing all of the opportunities I had in my relationship with my mum, to do things differently. 

What I came to see, was that I had not allowed myself to be a daughter to my mum. I had been the parent or protector. Our relationship had been one of seriousness and practicality, rather than fun, laughter, and filled with an abundance of happiness.

So I took action and the amazing new experiences that were created were beautiful.

In this episode, I share that journey with you, or at least the beginning of it and what unfolded in one day, so that you too might gain some gems from my process, that will support you to:

• Let go of the responsibility you hold for others
• Change patterns of conditioned and emotional processing that are preventing you from experiencing what you truly deserve
• Embrace that every new experience does not need to be profound in what is done, it is in how it is received, experienced, and shared
• Can get to experience with the people you have taken responsibility for, the relationship you deserve to have with them

Whilst I was changing some patterns, I would change the podcast cover and the format here.

If You Want To Work On Releasing Your Over-Responsibility And Or Expanding What You Deserve These Free IMAD Resources Are Worth Exploring

Over-Responsbility Checklist

My Deservedness Workbook And Video

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This time of year is powerful on so many levels.

It is a time to celebrate and enjoy family and friends. Yet the coming together of family, having time away from your daily routine where you have space to think and feel, missing people who have been a part of your life, all contribute to you having emotions triggered.

The emotions can end up controlling and dictating what you experience and how you feel and will keep you in patterns of interactions and situations, you have experienced before.

Yet there is something you can do…

THIS EPISODE

• Grow your awareness of having emotions triggered during the holiday time
• Understand the impact of how you manage your emotions 
• Identify the choices you have to influence what you experience during this time
• Explore an approach to support you to make a difference in how you manage your emotions

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