There is one simple thing that you can do that will make your world better or enhance it – and that is to do the right thing or do more of the right thing.
But what does doing the right thing mean?
It means different things to different people, different cultures, different religions and even different genders. Yet there are fundamental, true and pure ‘right things’ for us to do as humans that is the right thing. If each of us actually did them, then what a different world we would live in.
The reality – humans have different viewpoints as to what the right thing is, due to agendas, emotional issues, upbringing and many are not even aware of what the right thing is to do – why?
We get caught up in the emotional need for power, to be of value through position, money, status, influence, possessions and the need to be safe and secure which prompts protective and also reactive behaviors. Some people have lost the connection to caring about themselves, which then is expressed in that they don’t care about their space or place in the world. People are emotionally dependent on others and institutions for guidance and to belong, so they follow the norm of the group rather than what is true and right for them which is the right thing.
Then the key one – many humans are disconnected from their true self and their true conscience, so they don’t hear or know what the right thing is to do, especially for themselves. So what they listen to instead is the voices of their other consciences.
I will explain what I mean shortly.
INDIVIDUALS DOING THE RIGHT THING
This blog is not about addressing what Governments, Counsels and Organisations need to change, this is about where the influence of change really happens, with each of us as individuals. Then any change that happens is real and sustainable change.
If you and I can get the fundamentals right in doing the right thing, then we have the power of the ‘right thing’ being done that will influence change in our families, communities, countries and globally.
These include fundamental simple things such as:
- Keep your promises and if you cant then let the person know and why
- Don’t take your emotions out on other people
- Allow your children to be children, not your parent
- Share your truth and in doing so, own your feelings and opinions
- Don’t avoid things, as you are only avoiding something in yourself
- Speak to others with respect in tone, words, posture and environment
- Own your issues, emotions, actions and words
- Treat yourself and others with the care, respect and love, which all of you deserve
- Greet and acknowledge people and thank them
- Keep people informed about things that involve and or impact them
- Involve people in decision making that impacts them
- Ensure if you take on responsibilities like children, assets, mortgages, animals, cars, jobs and anything else, that you can fulfill them otherwise don’t take the responsibility on
- Drive to the speed limit
- Abide by the laws of the country you live in or change countries
- Slow down for animals so you don’t hurt them or run them over
- Treat animals, wildlife and every living thing with the utmost care and respect
- Place all of your rubbish in rubbish bins, unless it can be recycled, used in the garden or used for some other environmentally beneficial purpose
- Pick up litter when you see it otherwise it will go into the storm water drains and out to the ocean
- Respect nature, wildlife and the environment
- Keep your space clean and hygienic
- Give and share what you have with those that may not have it or be able to afford it
- Buy enough food for you to use and eat, not to waste and throw away
- Look at how you can do things differently to help the environment, no matter how small or large the thing is that you do, each action contributes
- Eat food that is nutritious and good for you
- Listen to your body as to what it wants and needs
- Say no to the things you know that are not right for you
- Say yes to the things you deserve even if you feel like you don’t
- Rather than complaining, either accept the situation and make choices based on this or do something about what you are not happy with
- Say something when others do not do the right thing – to help and support them to grow and develop
- Receive the help, support, kindness, love and gifts from the people that you know are right for you to receive from
- Reach out and offer support and help to someone who might need it and if they don’t you still did the right thing
- Be gentle on yourself
These are simple, basic, commonsense things to do, and yet they are not done by many, why?
Lack of self-worth in not valuing oneself. Lack of self-awareness in what you are doing and the impacts on yourself and others. Self-absorption in not seeing the impact on anyone else or the environment except yourself. You don’t care about yourself, so you don’t care about anything else. To name a few.
WHAT IS DOING THE RIGHT THING
Doing the right thing is really simple.
It is about being your true self – the beautiful, amazing, caring, loving, good and pure you and following the guidance of the voice of your true self and soul – your knowing. And calling yourself to account when you don’t do the right thing so that you can take ownership of why you did not do the right thing so that you learn, grow and develop from it.
It is also about being open to yourself and your truth so that you hear when you are being called to account for not doing the right thing. And many people avoid that voice because they do not want to face the consequences or feel their guilt. Their emotions will override the truth with lots of justifications for what you have done or not done, so that you can avoid the truth. More often than not you do not want to admit what your intention and reason was for doing the thing you did that was wrong, because that means facing yourself and your truth.
You know what the right thing is to do and the right thing to do for you.
Doing the right thing, may go against what others believe is the right thing. What society believes is acceptable and not acceptable, what logic says and what your experiences tell you is the right thing.
It requires you to have the ability to listen to your truth and knowing to hear what the right thing is.
If you and everyone else takes the steps to do the right thing which is also doing right by yourself, then the issues you face in yourself, your relationships, your life and in your world will subside, dissolve and what is natural to you, life and the environment will flourish.
An ideal end point to aim for, and how do you achieve it? By starting with yourself.
YOU START WITH YOURSELF
Doing the right thing is about operating from the goodness and purity of who you are as a human being. Listening to and following the truth that you have within your soul.
To be able to do it requires you to be aware that you have different consciences that guide your decision making and actions. And each of the different consciences are influenced by different elements. They have different purposes and as such impact your choices in different ways. So the actions you take and the outcomes you experience can have different right and wrongs to them.
To get to your true conscience, the place of universal truth and right and wrong, requires a process of healing and unravelling of the two human consciences and rebuilding your trust of your true soul conscience.
Lets explore the three consciences you have.
THE THREE KEY CONSCIENCES WITHIN YOU
There are there key consciences within you that communicate what is right and wrong, and only one is your pure conscience.
They are the:
- Intellect Conscience
- Emotional Conscience
- Knowing Conscience
Your intellect is in your head.
It is the rational, logical, analytical side of you, that requires evidence for something to be right or wrong. Your intellect likes things to be black and white and there is no room for movement on this.
The voice of your conscience from your intellect is one that has been conditioned over your life based on what you have been told by others as to what is right and wrong, acceptable and not acceptable, based on rationale and reasoning. It is also conditioned by the information you have read and learnt from school, laws, society, religion and your culture to name a few.
Your conscience will tell you things like “you should not cry in public” or “you have to get a good education to have a good job” or “you should stand up for older people so they can sit down” as examples. These beliefs guide your conscience as to what you should and should not do – what is right and wrong.
Now some of these beliefs are truly good things to do such as standing up for an older person to sit down. However there will be beliefs that are not true and right for you and not the right thing to do – naturally. If you cry in public you cry (there is no right and wrong to this) you may not complete your education, however you start working at a young age and you work your way up and have a great job. It is our judgements of these situations and experiences that make them wrong.
So your intellect conscience dictates to you based on norms, beliefs and expectations that come from others. If you do not follow these norms, there may be emotional consequences to this and then your emotional conscience will be your guiding voice.
Your intellect conscience protects you from feeling and listening to your emotional conscience as you do not want to feel the emotions you have within you.
More importantly your intellect conscience, albeit that it can be in agreement with your knowing conscience, generally is a suppressor and can make more noise than your knowing conscience, because you learnt to stop trusting your knowing conscience at a young age.
We will explore these two other consciences coming up.
The key with your intellect conscience is to unravel your conditioned thought processing, through working through your beliefs to see whether they are yours or not and whether they are true and right for you. And more importantly – looking at them in truthful, natural and practical terms – are they the right thing to be doing.
This requires you putting aside any emotion, any alignment to any norms of any part of society and seeing things for what they are. This will support you to work through your intellect conscience so you can work towards hearing your knowing conscience.
Your emotional conscience positioned in your heart region.
Ah driven by that lovely emotion – guilt and also shame, hurt, vulnerability and a stack of other emotions.
Your emotional conscience is conditioned from the experiences you have had in your life, especially the ones I call ‘layer experiences’. This is where who you were and how you expressed yourself were send a message, that it was not ok to be who you are. You were judged, rejected and it hurt. So you suppressed the connection to your true conscience – your knowing. You suppressed the emotion you felt at the time and you protected yourself, as you did not want to hurt again.
So your emotional conscience is conditioned to speak to you as to what is right and wrong, based on these experiences.
These experiences involved others imposing their emotional issues and beliefs on you and you either took them on board or rebelled against them. They are your reference point of what is right and wrong, because if you do wrong or are wrong what happens – you repeat the layer experience of the past (or one that is similar to it) so it reinforces the judgement, rejection and hurt.
An example being you innocently clapped at what someone was saying as you thought it was awesome. And you got told off for interrupting what was happening. So the message you are sent conditions your emotional conscience to tell you “do not clap in the middle of someone talking – it is not the right thing to do” and if you do do it, you experience consequences and that hurts.
The experiences will have left you feeling guilt for what you did, said or not did or said.
However there are three types of guilt –
1. Warranted guilt – where you did or said something and you knew it was wrong.
With this guilt you reacted and went against your knowing conscience in doing the wrong thing. This is your guilt. You Know.
2. Unwarranted guilt – where you did or said something and you knew it was right but others made you wrong.
This was the case in the scenario I described above – where you clapped out of support and acknowledgement. This was not wrong, but you were made wrong.
With this guilt you did the right thing, you went with your knowing conscience, but this did not fit with others, so they dump their guilt on to you. This not your guilt, do not take it on.
3. Over responsibility in the guise of guilt – where at a young age you took on board adult type responsibilities and behaviors well ahead of when you should. You became an adult as a child. And you believe you are responsible for other people and their emotional well being. So you rescue, save, protect and take on board their issues and responsibilities. Because if you do not, then you feel guilt.
You are not responsible for adults. They are responsible for themselves. You are only responsible for your children until they can take responsibility for themselves. The person you are responsible for – yourself. So it is not your guilt, unless you warranted the guilt.
How can you even hear let alone listen to your knowing and true conscience when this type of emotional processing is going on within you. It drowns out the noise, pictures and feelings of your knowing conscience.
The key here is to heal these emotions, through an array of processes you can work with. As well as – don’t take on others guilt and own it, in the unwarranted guilt. Do not take responsibility for other adults issues and emotions, in over responsibility. Rather walk beside them.
Always listen to trust and act on your knowing conscience then you will not ever feel guilt again and you will always do the right thing.
Your soul, your true self, is the one pure place within you that is not touched by the outside world. This is where your knowing conscience is. And it does not require unravelling of conditioning or healing of emotions.
Your soul is the pure source, power, light and energy within you. It is where all your beauty, purity, goodness and rightness lies.
The voice of your soul and true self, is your knowing, that is why it is called your knowing conscience.
Your soul guides you to do right by you, to value, honor, respect and care for yourself. And your soul guides you to only do the right thing. Which when you do the right thing you are doing right by you.
The more you connect to this part of you, it will clearly, simply and gently say to you “slow down” (when you are driving to fast), “pick up that plastic litter” when you walk up to it or past it. “Say hello” when you see someone you know. It will not let you lie, steal, cheat, avoid, justify, ignore, disrespect, deny, blame or dump on others. It is not who you truly are, and when you are your true self, there are no emotional insecurities or norms of others, that require you to do any of these.
If we can all reconnect to and strengthen our connection to our true self and soul and truly hear our knowing, then everyone on this earth will be doing the right thing. Then we don’t need the police, counsels and governments. There will be more cooperation, respect and care of each other. The environment, animals and wildlife will flourish. And we will do what is totally natural to us in a natural way.
Even if we cannot have the world like that currently, you can start and continue with your world by doing the right thing.
- Which conscience do you tend to listen to the most?
- How do you know it is this conscience?
- What are the things you currently do that are not right the thing?
- How do you know they are not the right thing?
- What will you do to change them?
- What are some things you can start doing that are the right thing?
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